My two closest friends have both done this in the past. Sarah went through a Gothic phase in her life when she went into the sixth form at another school. I didn't understand why she did it. We drifted apart but living opposite each other we still knew what we were up to through parental gossip. She started going out with a guy called Dan. From this point on I barely saw her again. She was round his place almost permanently. There would be nothing wrong with this, other than the fact he'd done time, was covered in tattoos and got into trouble on a frequent basis. One evening she came back to her parents place in tears as he was in hospital having been burnt on the arm by a petrol covered torch during a fight. And guess what, she went back to him. Why? Why would you go back into a situation like that? She moved in with him for a while before she left school completely.
A few years later, she moved into a lovely house with a guy called Adam. It was only round the corner from me so I got back in touch and went to visit. Adam seemed a really nice guy. They were happy together. Both had good jobs. Within a few months of catching up with her she was back at her mum's because she had been hospitalised by the violence he inflicted on her. This time she didn't go back to him. He moved his next victim in and she moved on.
The last man I'm aware of her seeing is the father of her two daughters. He always seemed slimy to me. He was a banker in the city, and a "merchant" one too if you ask me. He had to quit his job after getting so caught up in dealing drugs with his city mates and getting severely into debt that she ended up back at her mum's again, but this time with 2 daughters in tow.
She now lives in a council flat and has a good job in a school. Whether there have been any more men recently I don't know, but if there have I bet I can guess what they were like.
My other friend has been out with some really genuine people that she dumped before too long for someone more exciting. One was a drink driving loser who lost his job through being drunk at work. This happened to be the father of her child. They got married and bought a place together about an hour from her friends and family. After 4 years she got bored and started seeing someone else. I can't blame her though. The pub, gambling and his mates were far more of a draw than her and their son.
She moved back up to be near her friends and family. Unfortunately the adulterer moved in too. He was ok, but had previously tried it on with most of us at works do's. I think he was faithful, but yet again was a drinker and gambler with a lot of debt. They eventually moved out of the rented flat and into a place they part bought. Within a few years she was on her own again. He had done a runner to Europe with the cash from his shop and took a week to appear on the radar again.
Since then she has been through the 25 year old, the 56 year old, the married man, the moody, violent ex-marine and the stalker. She is now planning her wedding to someone who actually seems to be a genuine bloke with no baggage and cares for her.
What has made these friends of mine go for such obvious problems. They are both middle children of 3. Did they rebel with middle child syndrome? Were they just bored with their life and wanted excitement? Or were they just really bad judges of character?
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